I think it is extremely hard for most white people, even the most anti-racist and well-meaning, to understand what it is like to be a member of a culture that is reviled, disrespected, and just plain hated as black people. and to see children taken out of your culture by members of the oppressive cultures, and have that viewed as a solution to the problem.
I also have found in having these discussions in-real-life and online is that majority people have a hard time acknowledging or understanding how racism has impacted and continues to impact the black family structure in america. Even white people who can see a direct correlation between racism and the poor quality of education in inner-city schools, for example, or can see how racism affects employment or housing or the judicial system, for more examples, shut down mentally/emotionally with understanding how racism affects the black family, including foster and adoption issues.
I have also been puzzled by a peculiar reaction I have seen among some majority people when we, black people, make attempts to address some of these issues and take care of our own. Quite often (as you have seen on this thread) a common response from majority people is Well why don't more black people adopt then? A loving white home is better than no home at all! and so forth, stuff along those lines. But when black people attempt to do just that, by forming private adoption resources for black families or working within the system to request that black children be placed with black parents, we are often accused of 'reverse racism' and the like.
But I encourage you not to be disheartened by intercultural adoptions, Lamesha, because there are black people working to address these issues. here are some examples:
Denying Access to Black Families Hurts Children
Problems and Approaches to Black Adoptions
New Hope for Black Adoptions
The joy of adoption: more African-Americans are opening their hearts
Trula Books | Trula Babies
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