Emulate the People You Like to be Around

The method that worked best for me in changing how I interact with people was to emulate the people that I liked to be around. I also examined why I liked being around them. I found that I like being around people who exude happiness and self-contentment, people who have interesting thoughts and ideas, people who make nice comments about others, and people who are optimistic and look for the best in others and in situations. These were the people I looked forward to seeing and being around, others less so.

So I began to change the way I presented myself/behaved around others in hopes that they would see me in that way too. Over time it became second-nature and helped me to actually be a happier person. For example there was a time when if something bad happened to me in the morning, even something minor like spilling coffee on my shirt or whatever, that meant I was going to have a bad day, ALL day. Now I have an easier time processing negative events and letting them go rather than dwelling on negativity. I made a conscious choice to dwell on positivity and to be a pleasant person to be around, to choose to look at events and others' negative responses to me in a positive light. When I am not able to look at a negative response in a positive light because it truly was something stank that they said or did, I now choose to understand that it is on them, it's their actions/words and not something I caused or did. It's not my fault or flaw so why take it personally.

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