Working It Out

Things have been going a lot better with me and Brian. I think the turning point for me was realizing that we were just mirroring the negativity we were seeing in the other. I remembered how we used to always smile and be excited to see each other. It had gotten to the point where we were barely speaking. So I made an effort to be more fun and not scowl at Brian so much, which incidentally I did not even realize I was doing. Isn't that wacky? A lot of the times I wasn't even mad at him, I was frustrated with work or my writing or something and he would walk in and *instantly* assume I was pissed at him, and get all moody and defensive. Then I'd get moodier and because I'm direct say, "What's wrong with you?!" and he'd say, "Nothing!" and a silly little petty bitter arguement would start over nothing. So much miscommunication. We are both working on letting things go...it is amazing to me how he will pull up incidents from like, 1998 to try to use as arsenal when I complain about valid beefs I have with him today. Grrrrrrrrrr.

We want to take a trip somewhere alone, just the two of us. We never did have a honeymoon! I think Hawaii would be ideal, in December. I also like Montreal, I went last year for this womanist/feminist conference and Brian stayed home with the kids. I'd like him to see Montreal, we may go there. Or wherever, I just want some alone vacationing time with my husband.